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Nothing Comes for Free

If you have think that you have been getting something in free or too easily, then I will say think again!!!!!

When I say free, I do not means in monetary terms only, broadly it means something happen without any action, event or any reason. We can define these entire triggering events as cost for that particular action.

If we like to observe our natural world, then we will realize that there is no such things called “free” exist in our world. Every reaction has attached with some action. Nothing happens without any reason. Nothing moves without any force. There need to something loose, so that we can gain some thing.

If you are getting something unexpected then it would valid to assume that either you or your loved ones have already paid the prices for that or it is investment you are doing for future events. Swami Vivekananda had perfectly put this below message:

“What we are now has been the result of our own past actions, it certainly follows that whatever we wish to be in the future can only be produced by our present actions; so we have to know how to act.”  Swami Vivekananda

Whatever we do or did or going to do, each and every action will have some kind of impact on us directly or indirectly. It is very simple science which has been taught us by Sir Isaac Newton i.e. “Every action has equal and opposite reaction.”

Well I would like it to elaborate it bit further for example: To have every action your need some pre-action or to have every pre-action you will have some other pre-pre-action. Out Universe is nothing but chain of reaction of everything we do.

Let’s talk about from our day to day life, if you got some free gift, trust me sooner or later you have to pay them back in same or other form. If you help someone today, sooner or later same person or other will help you in some other way. If you hurt someone today, then sooner or later it going hit you back may not be the same way but it will.

Some time we draws hastily conclusion by seeing some through short term gain or loss, like if someone doing bad for some time and still he is reached at the top. Or some time, people are doing good deeds still he is suffering. If you ever trying to decide just by looking this kind of figure, then I would say wait, do fix up your mind yet. You are only looking only one side of coin. Things has not yet completed, they will have pay back or get in return of what they did. They may have already paid the price for all these things or will be asked to pay in future. The reason I am sure about this is because nature has to balance itself.  Balance is the key for nature to survive. Balance is the reason we exist.

My Point is never take anything for granted as it coming free to you, it has cost you do not know if you had paid for it or you will paid for it. Never take discourage yourself, if you are not getting for what you have earned either you will get it or you are paying for what you had already got. That is reason we have asked to keep believe in our selves and perform our Karma.

Only one thing is there which you can do as of now, is keep doing positive things, keep moving, if you got any help be grateful for that and keep helping others. Keep accumulating your good action as an investment, so that when return will come, trust me it will be HUGE.

Keep Going

If you’re going through hell, keep going.

If you going through tough time in your life, then this is the phrase that you always want to remember.

Who are we

When I look at myself, I feel that I have changed a lot since my childhood days. May be since I have born, although I do not even remember who was I. I guess we all change during our life time. Starting from home, parents change us as per their own culture and norms. Then we move into school and college where we learn more about society, friends and our customs. Finally we reach to mature world, when we meet every possible kind of people. After having different encounters with so many people, generally we change and adjust according to them and their norms. These changes become essential for us to survive in this world. It helps us to grow and success on where ever we are.

Hold on, think again, do we really change, I guess not. If you try to observe yourself bit more closely, then you will find one thing which has never been changed during our course of life. That one thing is nothing but real you, its core of your soul, heart and mind. It is what you are when you born. It is what our god has made up, good or bad, right or wrong does not matter. It is what we are. Never change in our life time.

So, if this is true, then what about these changes we talked about earlier. Are those fake, do we lie or presume something which we are not?  Who are we? A Person made up by society, parents and their culture or the person which is made by God.

Let me explain with below mention  Hermann Hesse  quote,

“There’s no reality except the one contained within us. That’s why so many people live an unreal life. They take images outside them for reality and never allow the world within them to assert itself.” —  Hermann Hesse quotes

Actually both statements is true, we keep changing ourselves, while keeping our core person intact. It like when we born, we born with some nature, our own core nature. Let’s not define what kind of nature good or bad, but definitely a unique nature or you can say our own unique soul with unique characteristics.

As we grow older, because of parenting, education and society, we are asked to behave and learn their ways, culture, custom and behaviour. Slowly, it has been taught to us to behave and be like them as we belong to them. During this process, it become very difficult to be like what we were in our childhood.

These changes start with necessity, then it transform into habit, then it became attitude and slowly knowingly or unknowingly it’s become part of nature.

We are like Onion, wrapped with many covers and skins, but real we are still lies somewhere inside those wrappers, safe and sound. All we need to unwrap ourselves find who we, who really we are and then act accordingly are.

So I would rather say, we evolve during course of our time, but never change from inside. Our real us is still preserved some-where inside us. Lets bring it out and show to the world, who you are.

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Let’s Begin

”The very first company I started failed with a great bang. The second one failed a little bit less, but still failed. The third one, you know, proper failed, but it was kind of okay. I recovered quickly. Number four almost didn’t fail. It still didn’t really feel great, but it did okay. Number five was PayPal.” – Max Levchin

What if, I fail? What if I do not get expected result. What if, people laugh and make fun of me. What if, I get hurt? These are few what if, which become obstacle in our day-to-day life new endeavors. Often, we think more about people and results than task itself. We don’t even start and assume that we cannot do it. We don’t realize that we are losing the battle before it even begins. We carry one old life style without injecting new spices into that.

I was also victim of “What if”. I was afraid of starting something new.  It was because that I was not capable of or deserve that, it just because I was too afraid of result. So rather fighting for it, I gave up many times. Did not experiment or implement any new ideas.

This is not the way of life I should live; this is not the way of life you should live. There is no point of losing the battle which I have not even fought. There is no point of giving up on anything without taking any chances. There is no point of thinking what people think of me.

Even if you fail in beginning, then tell yourself, it is okay to fail; it is okay to get hurt. Don’t afraid of it, stand up and fight back. Even if you become reason for someone joke, then tell yourself that you have brought smile on someone’s face. Never let any excuses to come between you and your battle. Learn from the past and follow your heart. Trust me, at the end it does not matter if you win or lose the battle, what matter would be smile at your face saying, yes I have fought rather than regret.

So, let’s begin the new journey, let’s fight for what we want.  Let’s start which we have never started before. Just follow your heart, see where it takes you.

Let it go

“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.” — Hermann Hesse quotes

Often, we have come across sayings like do not give up, fight back, hold onto the situation. These are very inspiring words and need lots of courage and strength to hold on to the situation, fighting back, never gives up , even when you are losing the battle. Some times its turns out to be true, we finally get success by following these words. We won, we fought back, and we overcome the situation.

Sometimes, in our life we stuck into the situation which become part of our life, feel like whole world to us.  We make all possible effort to fix the situation, we bring all possible help, we give up all we have, but still we may not able to fix that situation. May be situation is not under our control, it belongs to someone else and we trying to fix it. May be it is matter of life and death where we cannot do anything other than praying. May be it is part of our destiny which cannot be changed. These situations are like having yourself in quick sand, where more you try to come out, more you get inside.

During such time, we think holding on that situation will solve the problem. Unfortunately, that is not the case in most of the scenario. What we need is to let it go, let it happen what it is supposed to happen as we have already all possible effort to fix it.

This require much more strength, much more courage because as by now, it has become world for us. It’s never going to be easy for you to let it go, but it is how it supposed to be. Giving up on it, which has become integral part of us, will be like killing something inside us, but this may be right thing to do.

Lie to yourself to be happy

If you lie to yourself to be happy, you belong to a special group of creatures called human beings.

This is very famous quote, not sure who has written it, but it’s kind of true for most of us. We pretend to be happy even when deep down in our heart is full of sadness. We smile, laugh even when our heart want to shout and cry hard. We lie to ourselves, we fool ourselves in order to smile and happy. Even we know nothing is well, we try to convince our self saying “All Is Well”. It’s kind of trick we use to manipulate our self, so that we can do what we want or supposed to do.

Question is, is this a really good idea to lie, to pretend to ourselves. Is it really so important to be happy and strong always?

I am not sure about the answer, all  I can see is a gray area, Good also, Bad also, it is all depend on the what you lie, how much you lie and when you lie.

It may be a good idea to say “All is well” or to lie or to pretend our self. It brings strength, determination, positive attitude towards that situation. It inspires us to move ahead, fight for what you want or find a new way in life. It creates the positive environment among other people, it makes you strong. People can rely on you. They can trust you for being strong and positive in bad situation.

Having said that, I am not sure if by doing this, we can justify what we do to our self during this process. Have we ever given a thought on what it cost us for being such a lair to our self? My guess would be we lose our real identity somewhere inside our heart, we lose our self, if we practice this too much in our life.

Just think for moment, if we lie to our self, will we ever be honest with someone else? If we pretend always, then will we ever being real for any one. I think, first person we should honest with is our self. It’s also very unnatural for any living being to be happy and strong always. Common, let face it, if today we are happy, then some other day we will be sad, so it’s when it’s okay to laugh when we are happy, then it should also okay to cry when we are sad. I do not find any reason at all, why should be we fake our self to show how happy or satisfied we are.  If we never reach the bottom of the sea, how will you know the importance of height of hill? It is part of nature, we are part nature. We should behave and live according to what we are. If we trying become too strong, then slowly we will forget what we really feel and what we really are.

I am not sure if it is a good idea to achieve some thing at the cost of your own real identity. I am not saying that we should not be strong or positive or trying to be happy in bad situation. We should, definitely we should, but without being lair. Be honest with our self first, feel the pain, do not ignore it, accept the fact and then fight back with pure positivity. It requires lots of courage, it requires real strength, it will bring real, strong, honest and positive you.

I know you have good smile, but with teeth it would look great!!!

I know you have good smile, but with teeth it would look great

We all have our own way of smiling and each smile makes our face much more graceful and much more beauty full. For almost every occasion we wear different kind of smile, with different face expression and every smile make our face much more beautiful than ever.

For me among this entire smile there is one smile way which stands out of the league i.e. Smile/ Laugh with your full heart. I have been lucky enough to meet few of this kind of people; they are unique in their expression. They often do not bother about where they are or what people will think about them. It may be in their nature to express their positive emotion in such a way that everyone around them can feel their positive energy. They laugh and smile openly on very small to small things also and that generally make their surrounding much more lively and positive.

I am not sure if it is god gift or they have practicing since childhood and now they are used to it. But one thing I am very certain about that whoever are we if we smile and laugh from full of our heart without thinking anything, just about what we feel then, certainly we can bring peace inside us and positive energy for others.

Who are you, when no one is looking?

Who are you, when no one is looking?

This is one of the best phrases to describe and understand ourselves. We all act differently when we are surrounded by the different people. We never act or behave from core of our heart. We always want to be the best among people, most of the times we do not give the required attention to our own real nature. Somehow, in quest for good life and more money, we all lost ourselves.

It is worth taking some time out, sit back and feel ourselves. See how we feel about something when there is no one will praise us, no one will blame us.  We will not do or say anything to make someone happy or sad. We will do as our feeling and nature will ask us to do. Good, bad will not matter to us.  No one will judge us for what we would be doing that time. There would be nothing hide or lie about anything.

This will show us, our own true nature to ourselves. Let’s give a shot to this, let’s reinvent ourselves.